Are you where you thought you’d be at this stage in life? Yes, no, maybe? Do you know?
I’m sure you played the Goals Game when you were fresh out of college and working at your first job. You read some book (or maybe a dozen) that expounded on the need to have goals. So you promptly wrote a bunch of goals, one of which included getting to a certain level (manager, director, VP, Sr. VP) by a certain age.
Lots of “certain” words in there, but there are no certainties in life. You might not even be in the same career path that you were in five years ago. So how are you doing in life? Are you cool with where you are in your career? Have you achieved or surpassed your goals? Does it matter?
Of course it matters, right? It’s your career after all, but perhaps you should think about where you actually want to go in life versus what you of five or ten years ago wanted to do. What’s really important to you? Are you creating that life NOW for you and your family? Are you living the kind of life that has the right balance of work/family/play/enjoyment or are you overly focused on your goals from the past?
“You must give up the life you planned in order to have the life that is waiting for you.” – Joseph Campbell
Give up the past goals and set some new ones. Don’t be so firm with the dates or the goals themselves. What am I talking about? An example might help.
Instead of the goal to be a millionaire by age x, why not have a goal to save x percent of your income? This is more manageable and doable and not dependent on getting promotions to increase your income or a certain return every single year from the stock market.
Instead of getting promoted to VP by age x, make it a goal to do GREAT WORK and inspire others. Yes, less solid and exacting, but more reachable and enjoyable along the way.
By the way, you can keep the original goals if you want, just be sure to add in a few goals that are truly within your control and focus on designing a life worth living and being proud of, no matter what your title and how much cash you have in the bank.